“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”Alexander Graham Bell
What door has recently closed in your life? At some point in our life all of us will have a door close in our face. Whether it’s a relationship break up, a job loss, or death of a dream closed doors are a part of life. It’s important that you don’t remain staring too long at the closed door. Otherwise you may miss the new opportunities in front of you.
Consider the options that the closed door offers for you to find new opportunities on your own. What is something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t had the time to devote to it or the courage to pursue? Do you want to write a book? Start a business? Be a Life coach?
You can do anything you want to do but it take hard work, goal setting, resilience and determination. Do what you can, with what you have, where you are, and you will build a base for your success.
Years ago, my daughter unexpectedly lost her job and was out of work for several months. Fortunately, Ashley was able to collect unemployment. It was an emotional shock to her system. Instead of lingering at the closed door she chose to use the time to develop a non-profit Harmony, Inc. The open door was within her. Her passion is empowering youth to find their purpose. Eventually, she was hired at another company.
Currently, Ashley is gainfully employed while working part time with the non-profit.
It’s important that you don’t jump ship immediately and go full-throttle after your dream if you’re not financially able. Instead choose one aspect of your dream that you can work on while you are still gainfully employed. Eventually you will build the capacity to work full time in your passion.
It can feel devastating when a situation intrudes your life beyond your control. If you’re dealing with a change here are 4 steps to help you.
Give yourself permission to mourn.
Each of us grieves in our own unique way. It’s so important to feel your grief whether it’s through tears, screaming, journaling or another outlet. So when you feel it rising up don’t push it down. Instead find a safe place to release it. Take time to rest in God’s love He’s got this. Remind yourself that He holds your future and knows your path.
Make a decision to face forward.
Stop banging your head on the closed door. Accept the lessons learned, and get back up again. Make a decision to walk away and take steps toward the new opportunities unfolding in front of you.
Be open to change.
New opportunities will open up a whole new world. Sometimes they stretch you in unimaginable ways that make you feel uncomfortable. You may discover strengths that you did not know you had. Embrace the challenge with a positive attitude and perseverance.
It takes courage to step into something new. Courage is a choice. Make a decision to walk through the open doors. Sometimes doors close because it was only for a season, other times it is to help re-direct us. New opportunities, new life, new doors will open up on your path.
What doors are you staring at? Open ones or closed ones? Change your perspective to find the open doors that will lead you to new opportunities.
Have faith and believe God will open doors for you at the right time.